Sometimes we say hurtful things when we are mad.
We didn't mean to hurt the other person,
but maybe because we care so much and so helpless of the situation,
that we don't want to care anymore.
Or maybe we say things to hurt the other person to let them understand our pain.
Examples,
A helpless mother say to her drug addict son:
'Go and don't come back. I won't care about you anymore.'
She really don't care anymore? Or she is helpless do anything to help her son anymore?
A tb say to her girlfriend:
'Stop telling me how nice he treats u. I don't want to care anymore.'
'yea he kisses you or touches you god knows where,I won't care. Even if you sleep with him, I won't care anymore'
Yea right,don't care. Heart broken inside, but she can't stop her lover from turning straight.
If you notice,couple who are in closed intimacy stage, they don't talk. They whisper. They don't need to be loud and clear to make sure their message get across. Their hearts are at closed distance.
That's why people who are arguing raise their voices. They want to make sure the other person hear what they are saying. They want to be heard. Their hearts are at distance. Far apart.
Sometimes we know there is no more hope and future. But the past memories are holding us back. Those sweet memories are torturous. Make us stuck.
'I know there is no more future. But I'm stuck, I can't let go.'
'Move on already. Can't you see she doesn't care anymore?'
'I know. Ok.'
And we keep trying and trying. Useless effort. Not enough strong-will? Use some CBT might be helpful maybe?
There are a lot of confusions in this world. Even if we keep asking 'why why why why' won't get any answers. Painful it is, such is life, but still have to keep moving on. Earth don't turn backward. If the world ends tomorrow,what you will do?
家里有个女人不懂是发猫的脾气还是发人的脾气。不对,首先应该是:不懂是风或者气流的关系,还是发脾气的关系,一直关门很大声。
我跟猫猫说:‘let's bet。 等下又会听到‘砰’一声~’
一,二,三, 砰!
嘿嘿,I win~
当然,不是今天,是上个星期五?六?
有人把东西搬了出去,
又一件一件的搬了回来。
欠着的八百块,
托拉着感情,
结果变成了一千八。
感情里大家都是傻子。只能说她太厉害了。我不喜欢她。男人才走,就把兄弟钓?调?回来。
喂,你给她的时间太多了,快点把自己还给我们一下,兄弟很久没有一起出去了,喝茶也好。你看,不是我不理你,是你把自己都给了她,我怎么理你?快点看快点看,然后click reply。
Thursday, December 10, 2009
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2 comments:
ya, i dunwan to care anymore.
hl
动物在家里乱跑很麻烦
我开始忍不住那家的肮脏了-.-''
我知道你和她的不喜欢
我试着调整中间人的角色
喝茶吧
我也想
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